The Holiday season is here. The lights are twinkling, the wish lists are completed, the presents are wrapped, and the baking has begun. We are supposed to believe in the magic of Christmas.
“All the stockings were hung by the chimney with care in the hope that St. Nicholas would soon be there.” Christmas comes with family traditions – If we don’t have any children to involve in these traditions, the holidays can be a very depressing time of the year.
Are you facing another holiday season without a baby?
Santa Claus, Papa Noel, Father Christmas, and Kris Kringle is a legendary figure who is said to bring gifts to the homes of well-behaved children on Christmas Eve. Christmas is the season of hope and cheer. Tis the season to be jolly. It isn’t easy to be jolly when you have empty arms.
I have been fortunate enough to have a stepdaughter to celebrate Christmas with. We have her every Christmas eve and Christmas morning. I had spent years hoping for two pink lines on a pregnancy test. I always felt a sense of jealousy for those mothers who had a newborn baby to put in a Christmas stocking. Complete with peace, joy and love.
Take a break. Skip the holiday parties. You don’t have to view anything on social media, or open the holiday cards. You aren’t obligated to stare at all the children waiting for Santa in their best Christmas outfits. Don’t glance at “Baby’s First Christmas” ornaments. Christmas can be very isolating – a very hard reminder for the infertile. This holiday can compare to Mother’s Day and Father’s Day in terms of heartbreak.
Tell your family and friends you appreciate their love and support, but you need to create your own traditions at this time and you may not be able to attend any regular family gatherings. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about your choices. You cannot blame yourself for something you cannot control.
My wish for you is that you still believe in magic. Write that letter to Father Christmas. Decorate your tree. Bake your cookies. Listen to Christmas music. Buy matching buffalo plaid pajamas – get your dog some too.
My hope for you is that you get those two pink lines.